YOU LAUGHED AT MY DREAMS NOW I LAUGH AT YOUR BANK ACCOUNT.

 Hello people, I want to first of all say THANK YOU to all those who have been devotedly reading my blog. Like everytime I see a comment from someone, I get excited. Its really a good thing when someone appreciates the little you do, so I want to say a big thank you and I really really appreciate.
Today I am going to be talking about judging and being able to distant yourself from people  who are not meant to be in your life. I am going to be giving examples, use pidgin in some sentences and also give quotes.

We all know what the word 'judgment' and 'judging' is but for those who don't know and have never decided to check on it.
Judgment: The ability to make considered decisions or come to either sensible conclusion or non sensible conclusion. 'An error of judgment '. It is an opinion based on thoughts, feelings and evidence.
Judging becomes a problem when we make it hurtful, or unfair judgment based on little evidence.

But I must say the word we normally use nowadays is 'judging'
You know what I mean nowadays yeah?
When you hear 'soo wait why is she judging me? '
Or when you hear  'Mehn that guy got the fake Nike shoes then you hear laughter from the crowd'.

You judge and you feel good with yourself.
You stop judging when you monitor yourself, look for the positive, avoid stereotyping, stop judging yourself, focus on your own life and lastly remember how it feels.

You have friends that locks you down when you bring up how you want to buy an aircraft by laughing at you saying 'guy! No go sit down, where you go see money'
You have friends that when y'all go out, they will be waiting for you to Pay, they call and hail you "Ogaaa cash account, you be my number one, don't worry I go pay you for house or school' then you will say okay. The next time you go out, you won't have money and you ask the same people for just a thousand naira and they will say 'you know I didn't bring my card now, you  could have told me since 'you ask the next person 'ahhh guyyyy I only have change ohhhh, nothing dey here, sorry' but they are eating chips and burger WITH ice-cream and one of  them  will go to the extent and say 'Guyy you broke and they burst into laughter'.
Yes now, that is kind of friends you have.
You have friends that will allow you to dress anyhow and go out or to class 'don't worry, its fine' always 'don't worry its fine' like please are you depressed?
Which one is don't worry?
You have friends that when you tell them part of dreams and how God will bless you, how you are going to build an airport or a shopping mall and have a lot money with a good family, they will just laugh and say 'guy shut up is it barbie and the dream house' or 'Guy, just do money heist period'.
You have friends that call you cry baby infront of your enemies and say 'NA JOKE' 
Please what is 'na joke?
You have friends that laugh at you because of how you are dressing, the phone you carry, the bag you carry, the hair you carrying infront of people and you get angry and they say 'NA JOKE NA' You have friends that will talk about you ehn, spoil your name, make people digest your name in their system, tell your secrets ehn and they come back to you and say 'ehhhh please ehnn can I wear that shoe, I swear its fine'.
You have friends that say 'guy that your babe ehn, reason am na, she too fine for you, how you go even date her when you look Like this, she go just leave you' then you will now go and tell her' see babe, I can't continue with this because you are tooo good for me'.
You have friends that deny you in public (oh blood of Jesus) and talk to you in private, they don't text you at all but when you travel abroad they will text you and say dont forget me o or buy me clothes(I don die), they tell people they are not your friends and they insult you because you don't have anything. Some people call some of these opinions. But please your opinions are not needed if they arent asked for. 

"You dont share your dreams to small minded people "

we all have friends and some of us, our friends are part of your failure. Friends that belittle your standard.
If you are being judged be realistic in some cases, disengage from them or ignore, think positive.
Make decisions for yourself, talk to yourself, listen to your heart, care for yourself and make that dream work out.

You are scared, you are looking at yourself in the mirror and you are like whats wrong with me, you feel insecure most of the time, you forget about your goals. 
Then that's what happens, you start to listen to them, your instincts, your friends and finally boom, its shot out.
Everything you wished for is over then you go ahead to become useless.

In my other post, I said you actually don't understand that the reason God keeps waking you up everyday is because there is something out there for you to accomplish.
But what you mostly do is to listen and think negativity instead of positively.

Judging, you judge, you keep judging, you judge and judge till you feel you need a break.
Okay now let me ask you a question
Are you Jesus Christ?
Are you God?
No no you arent. 

You are just a MERE human, I mean MERE human like me, like anybody on earth. Yes, you are believe it or not.
So going round judging, poking and making people have low-self esteem is pure madness.
Yes you have it all, you have all the cars, yes you are not up to her yet, yes you are not up to him now, yes you have all the phones now, yes you are the first to wear Balenciaga, yes yes but you can never be someone who will have a right to judge people. 

All those people that have denied you now as a friend, spat on you and even didn't believe in you. 

Just picture this:
You always had a dream of becoming a famous tv influencer and also build a fancy restaurant. You tell your friends and they laugh so loud and didn't even want you to go on any further. Then you just accept that in good faith and didn't care. Now you are in the university 100level, you tell yourself, I am going to make it out of this university with a first class.
100level: 3.00
200level: 3.25
You are like God, help me to make ittt with atleast 3.5 this 300 level.
300level: 3.6
400level and project done: 4.6
Some people feel is not all about the education or whether you come out with a first class. Okay I understand that, you feel that way and at the end you either make it or you don't.
Some others are like even though you graduate with a first class, you might still not make it. Okay I understand that, you feel that way and at the end you lose or win.
So what you gotta do is to be in the middle. You get an average education and an average result and see what comes out from it. You may still lose or win. So when you lose, you won't be surprised and when you win you won't be surprised either.
No one is forcing it.

Wait wait, you think you can't do it?
You have no idea how you did but you did. Before graduating, you were doing some minor jobs and you earned little and saved. After graduating, you strive and get a job. That job, you earn some good amount of money and save, start another business and save. Finally, you decide to build up a show for yourself to influence others and after that you build that restaurant.
Everything in life is with God and time.
This was just an example and don't get it wrong, you plan your future and God leads you to a good path and you succeed  in it. 

When you make it and they come with doubt in their faces.  You create silent enemies by revealing how much God has blessed you. There are people who will be unhappy about your success and your big dreams are too heavy for them to bear, so they will try to break you into pieces. And that is when they come , When you have made it. They come with their past history with you but they were the ones who didn't believe in you. 

Support your friends now, advice them and encouragement is needed. 

Let your hustle be louder than the words that comes out from your mouth

When you making it, make it in silence. Don't go about posting how you got 100k today and tomorrow 400k, like please have wisdom. '
'You don't have to tell them the deed is done, let them breathe the deed'

At the end, you still laugh the last laugh. 

Thank you so much for reading this, I hope you liked it. If you have any comment, you just put it right down.
Adios amigos ❤